Defensiveness is a common relationship issue. It can stem from fear, shame, insecurity, or past trauma. Defensiveness looks like denying responsibility, making excuses, counterattacking, or shutting down. When we take the time to understand the root cause of defensiveness, this can help break the cycle and improve communication.
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Everyone always hears that date nights are important, especially for long term relationships. But have you ever thought why besides the obvious “spending quality time together”?
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All emotions act as signals, a “red alert” in response to external stimuli. Guilt arises when we feel we’ve violated our ethics or morals. Can you identify “guilt” as the emotion you’re feeling, and understand what it’s in response to? My clients express remorse over mistakes, hurtful actions, or inaction. Guilt also stems from failing to meet expectations—whether from parents, oneself, or others. Not all guilt is the same and may manifest differently for each person. A key part of letting go is understanding where these feelings come from and acknowledging their impact.
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